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Frequently Asked Question: Is Stepford Wives Organization MGTOW / MRA in Disguise?

Thursday, November 20th, 2014

We have been frequently emailed and asked online, “Is the Stepford Wives Organization MGTOW?” or “Is the Stepford Wives Organization MRA men in disguise?”

So the first thing we did was to look it up online at Google. And that left us scratching our heads, “are we Maximum Takeoff Weight?” (at least that’s what we got when we typed in our inquiry at Wikipedia).

So then we typed in MRA, and Google returned this picture:

Now we’re even more confused. We asked Carolyn’s husband and he said, “Um, I think they mean Men’s Rights Movement….sounds like a gun club but is really a male version of National Organization for Women.”

Needless to say, if you had met any of us in person, there wouldn’t be a need to ask that question. We definitely support the Men Going Their Own Way.

Here are a few lines from the MGTOW manifesto:

1. Instilling masculinity in Men by:

Demanding respect for men.
Serving as good male role models.
Living independent lives.
Fighting chivalry.

2. Instilling femininity in Women:

We will hold women equally accountable to men and ignore and shun those who refuse to take any responsibility for their own circumstances. Thus we induce women to take a complementary position with men instead of a competitive position as is now the case.

Feminine qualities we want from Women:

Being a Nurturer.
Being Supportive.
Being Responsible.
Being Respectful.
Being Honest.

Of course we support their goals, and stand behind them 100%. But we ourselves are NOT MGTOW (Men Going Their Own Way), nor are we MRA (Men’s Rights Activists).

Men today – white men, in particular – have it more difficult than any demographic group in the Western hemisphere. As quotas are required to be filled, jobs, opportunities, and benefits are doled out to a multitude of nonwhite males. We, as women, understand that invisible sense of existence. Therefore, we were able to empathize with their drive to reclaim their manhood, just as we reclaimed our femininity.

The last thing the oft downbeaten men (just watch many of the popular tv commercials where women are portrayed as smart and strong and men are portrayed as stupid and weak) needs in our society is to be made fun of. And once you combine the whole Women and Children more with the Women First vision of the new headstrong feminists, it is clear we are headed for the fall of Western Civilization.

Please Help Americans and Red Cross in Disaster Stricken Midwest

Wednesday, May 25th, 2011

source: CBS St Louis Local

We send our prayers and thoughts out to families, individuals, friends, and heroes who are helping out the folks in the heartland of America. We know you are all going through tough times. For all who are unable to be there, please consider helping out by donating to the Red Cross. Here is a quick disaster donation primer. Organizations, when operating outside of American soil, often opt between earmarked and unrestricted donations. “Earmarked” means it is specifically set aside for that disaster and tied up with that event. “Unrestricted” means it will be used for that event and other departments or other disasters as needed.

In our opinion, Red Cross is a reliable organization who are monitored carefully, especially within the U.S. Some may argue that unrestricted donations may go to an event that the donor didn’t intend, but we feel that Red Cross benefits one way or another, as your funds help them to help those in need. Take blood donations, for example. In the case of the Midwest disaster, you may feel that by donating locally, you are not helping a thousand miles away. However, if there is a shortage of blood, your local blood banks may transport their supply out there, in which case, they are in need of replenishment. So for those who are unable to donate financially, we entirely understand, but please consider going over to your local blood banks and donate in another way! America needs you right now!

Visit Red Cross or call 1-800-RED-CROSS; people can also text the word “REDCROSS” to 90999 to make a $10 donation. Contributions may also be sent to local American Red Cross chapters or to the American Red Cross, P.O. Box 37243, Washington, DC 20013.

Frequently Asked Questions about Stepford Wives Organization (update: July 19, 2010)

Monday, July 19th, 2010

We have added a permanent page to this diary / bulletin board involving Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ) to be found on the side bar. We will produce it here as today’s entry:


1. Can I join this group

The Organization is made up of a group of women who physically know each other in real life, and live within close proximity of each other. It is NOT a virtual community where online members can join. The Organization is an online bulletin board for us to share our ideas, recipes, etiquette, philosophy, and way of conduct with other Stay-at-Home Mothers and Wives.

2. What is the politics of the organization

We encourage a broad range of views among our organization. There are women who have Women’s Studies B.A. from prestigious schools on the East Coast, to home-schooled ladies, and some with GEDs. Education is not a sign of prestige as we think no amount of intellectual powers can compare to one’s ability to please her husband. We have feminists who were active in the 70s and 80s, to ultra-conservative religious Republicans. At different point in our lives, we realized that staying at home and attending to and pleasing the head of the household was our main calling in life.

3. Where are you located.

Western Connecticut.

4. I’m a member of the transgender / crossdresser / bDsm community. Can we join your organization?

We can’t control who reads our website, or who pretends or fantasizes to live our way. While we think you should be free to live your life as long as you’re not hurting anyone, the answer is No. We feel if you live by the tenets of traditional marital obedience, there’s no need to stray into deviance and fringe behavior. We like normalcy and promote traditional, conservative values. We have never associated with any alternative lifestyle groups or gender-confused people, and we have little desire to.

5. What books do you recommend us to read

1. The Holy Bible
2. Fascinating Womanhood by Helen B. Andelin
3. Fascinating Girl by Helen B. Andelin (which was incorporated into certain editions of FW)
4. Man of Steel and Velvet: A Guide to Masculine Development by Aubrey Andelin
5. Being the Strong Man a Woman Wants: Timeless Wisdom on Being a Man by Elliot Katz
6. Wife Dressing: The Fine Art of Being a Well-Dressed Wife by Anne Fogarty and Rosemary Feitelberg
7. Stepford Wives by Ira Levin
8. Complete Book of Etiquette by Amy Vanderbilt
9. A History of the Wife by Marilyn Yalom
10. Happy Housewives: I Was a Whining, Miserable, Desperate Housewife–But I Finally Snapped Out of It…You Can, Too! by Darla Shine

6. Who are the members of the Organization?

There is Irene (that’s me) who, along with Pree, does most of the admin work and answers emails. My sister Carolyn, and then there is Stephanie, Clarissa, Blair, Liz, Sici (because she doesn’t like to be called Muff), Jane, Maddy and Connie.

6. Are you against feminism?

We are not. Feminism fought to gain equality, opportunity, legal rights, and most importantly, freedom for women. Like any idea, it was bound to be misread and appropriated by people who had their personal agenda to advance. In it’s original suffragist and workplace ideals, they succeeded in what they set out to do. As with any idea that seek to obtain opportunity however, freedom means we are equally free to accept feminists ideas as we are to reject them. We thank and applaud the women who have fought for our rights to make our own decisions. Now please allow us to make our own decisions and live by the choices we have made.

If you force us to live by your personal, egalitarian vision of utopia, then wouldn’t you would have repeated the very offense you charged men (and the patriarchal oppression) of committing?

Joining Stepfordwives Organization

Friday, July 2nd, 2010

Ladies, thank you for reading this bulletin board. At this time, the organization is just composed of a group of wives who live in close proximity to each other (We are no farther then ten blocks from each other).

Thank you for your continued enthusiasm in our group. Many of you have written and expressed interest in joining us. I always encourage participation in the discussions and comments on the entries here (there will be more updates in starting today, and at a greater frequency). We are always delighted to hear from you.

The reason we don’t give out online memberships is because we are essentially a group of wives. We are aware that there are many people online who present themselves as women or wives when they are neither. It’s an internet culture which we are somewhat mystified by. Since we celebrate traditional values and the traditional family configuration, we are not open to the idea of accepting alternate lifestyles and third gender parties. After all, if you are not being honest about who you are online, how honest can you be about your other thoughts. That’s just the way our group of friends have always been.

Nothing against what you chose to do with your life. We just ask that you chose to respect what we have decided to do with ours.

Thanks for your interest in our group.

-I. Snowden