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The Dateable Rules and ways to make yourself that “dateable” girl.

Friday, November 15th, 2013

Author Justin Lookadoo has been getting heat from the social media mob for putting his faith-based advice to boys and girls out there. We agree with most of what he has to say, but find that a good part of the advice to the girls are basically rehashed wisdom from Helen B. Andelin’s femininity bible Fascinating Womanood. For boys and men, if you want to read a definitive tome on regaining traditional manhood, our husbands suggests Helen’s husband Aubrey Andelin’s book Man of Steel.

Still Justin is a man, and whenever a man speaks, we immediately drop everything and give him our full attention, eager to agree with him and support him!

Among the ten dateable girl rules – rules that Justin believes will endear a girl to a boy, we find #1, 9 and 10 closest to Helen’s and the Stepford Wives Organization’s creed:

1. Accept your girly-ness. You’re a girl. Be proud of all that means. You are soft, you are gentle, you are a woman. Don’t try to be a guy. Guys like you because you are different from them. So let your girly-ness soar.

9. Let him lead. God made guys as leaders. Dateable girls get that and let him do guy things, get a door, open a ketchup bottle. They relax and let guys be guys. Which means they don’t ask him out!!!

10. Need him. Dateable girls know that guys need to be needed. A Dateable girl isn’t Miss Independent. She knows we are made for community. Needing each other is part of faith. She allows him to be needed at times, knowing he was called to serve just as much as she was.

from Justin’s website: R. U. Dateable

As long as there are traditionalists out there spreading the good word, there will always be detractors trying to bring them down. We are certainly no stranger to this, given the amount of disagreeable emails we receive each week. Happily we also have many supporters. So please be patient with us, as we answer all your emails one by one, while we try to update our website on a regular basis.

Don’t worry. We’re still here!

Recommend: Aubrey Andelin’s Man of Velvet and Steel (February 26, 2010)

Friday, February 26th, 2010

As you know, among our Stepford bibles is Helen B Andelin’s Fascinating Womanhood. Her husband Aubrey also wrote a book for men, after Fascinating Womanhood became a bestseller (it sold over 1.6 million copies since 1963, when it was published!). Man of Velvet and Steel (ISBN-978-0911094237 ) was written in 1972, and though it is primarily a guide for men, we thought we’d share our highlighted passages here, since it’s a guide for Stepford women too, in how to behave around our men. After all, the purpose of good manners is to help our husbands make a good impression on others, demonstrating what good decision-makers they are by picking such an obedient and loving wife. Here are some of the favorites among us Stepford girls.

Click on this link to go to read excerpts of this book on the Good Manners page on our websites: and