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FAQ: “What If My Husband Votes For A Different Candidate Than Mine?”

Saturday, March 12th, 2016

Voting 2016 Presidential Campaign GOP Democrat Suffragists Women's rights, ERA, Feminism, Feministing

We get this question all the time. Although girls at our organization never tell people how to vote (it’s just not our place to do so), we have always espouse the traditional view that we women are not well-informed enough about current topics and educated enough about politics to vote. That’s why it has never been an issue on how or who we should vote for.

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We leave the decisions up to the head-of-the-household. Critics will say that women in the past have fought for our right to vote. We certainly appreciate that effort, and we fully utilize that right. We exercise the freedom of either choices and we are all. We either stay at home and refrain from voting, OR if additional votes are needed for our husband’s candidate, we vote for who our husband tells us to vote for. He is the head of our household and we follow the head. Our duty as Stepford wives is not to question or inquire, we leave it up to our men to make informed decisions.

So come these primaries, caucuses, and presidential elections, we hope you will do what we do and follow your husband’s lead. Of course, we also hope you will vote for a candidate who is conservative, Christian, and stands for traditional values.

Frequently Asked Question: Is Stepford Wives Organization MGTOW / MRA in Disguise?

Thursday, November 20th, 2014

We have been frequently emailed and asked online, “Is the Stepford Wives Organization MGTOW?” or “Is the Stepford Wives Organization MRA men in disguise?”

So the first thing we did was to look it up online at Google. And that left us scratching our heads, “are we Maximum Takeoff Weight?” (at least that’s what we got when we typed in our inquiry at Wikipedia).

So then we typed in MRA, and Google returned this picture:

Now we’re even more confused. We asked Carolyn’s husband and he said, “Um, I think they mean Men’s Rights Movement….sounds like a gun club but is really a male version of National Organization for Women.”

Needless to say, if you had met any of us in person, there wouldn’t be a need to ask that question. We definitely support the Men Going Their Own Way.

Here are a few lines from the MGTOW manifesto:

1. Instilling masculinity in Men by:

Demanding respect for men.
Serving as good male role models.
Living independent lives.
Fighting chivalry.

2. Instilling femininity in Women:

We will hold women equally accountable to men and ignore and shun those who refuse to take any responsibility for their own circumstances. Thus we induce women to take a complementary position with men instead of a competitive position as is now the case.

Feminine qualities we want from Women:

Being a Nurturer.
Being Supportive.
Being Responsible.
Being Respectful.
Being Honest.

Of course we support their goals, and stand behind them 100%. But we ourselves are NOT MGTOW (Men Going Their Own Way), nor are we MRA (Men’s Rights Activists).

Men today – white men, in particular – have it more difficult than any demographic group in the Western hemisphere. As quotas are required to be filled, jobs, opportunities, and benefits are doled out to a multitude of nonwhite males. We, as women, understand that invisible sense of existence. Therefore, we were able to empathize with their drive to reclaim their manhood, just as we reclaimed our femininity.

The last thing the oft downbeaten men (just watch many of the popular tv commercials where women are portrayed as smart and strong and men are portrayed as stupid and weak) needs in our society is to be made fun of. And once you combine the whole Women and Children more with the Women First vision of the new headstrong feminists, it is clear we are headed for the fall of Western Civilization.

The Lady Doth Protest Too Much: (The only people who oppose the Stepford Wife…are women)

Friday, December 10th, 2010

retro wife with husband in kitchen at stepfordwife.com

It’s no secret. We get frequent hysterical emails from readers who are horrified by what we say at Stepfordwife.com / Stepfordwives.org. It’s no surprise, in addition, that most of these offended individuals turn out to be women. Or so they say. It’s the internet, you never know! But our little secret – the one that makes us chuckle and brush the attack mail off – is this: have you ever noticed that everywhere else you come across an article denouncing the traditional wife, it’s always written by another woman?

We love reading newspaper archives from all over the world. And we never realized why our website had more British fans than American ones. After some browsing around, we found that English newspapers and magazines (and British culture) are still fascinated by the role of the wife. It’s only in the American consciousness that feminism has run rampant. While there’s nothing wrong with that, you can understand why the outrage is set at a higher cooking temperature in the U.S.

Here are two from the Daily Mail:

Honey, you’re out of date: Why men no longer want a 1950s wife written by Olinka Koster. (Notice how all the men in the comments section appear to support the traditional wife, even though the author feverishly claims otherwise?)

What women want in 2010: A husband who’ll be the main breadwinner by Beth Hale.

There’s more if you care to subscribe to Questia.com to or other online article / journal archives website.

As I’ve mentioned above, there’s really no way to tell who is who and what is what online. But we’ve pulled our resources together and actually conducted some research of our own on our friends. A few of the girls in the Stepford Group never miss an opportunity to ask real men what they think. The opportunity arises whenever we are in the company of long time friends who are men, or men who are husbands of our friends. Having known these guys for a long time, we have it on good grounds they are being honest. We’d ask something along the lines of:

“Susan and I was having a conversation the other day, and we were debating the idea of traditional roles in marriage. We seem to disagree on whether men would like the modern liberated woman or the conservative homemaking wife. So let’s see if you can help me with a man’s point of view?

Would you chose a wife who makes as much as you, can pick up and go at any time, whose idea of making wedding plans is discussing the prenuptial agreement, whose idea of dinner is “ordering out,” debates every point and topic with you, has strong opinions she will defend vigorously with Powerpoint presentations until she thoroughly and systematically dismantles your thinking through semantics, etymological deconstructionist theories, syllogistic paradoxes, and modern semiotic analyses, OR would you prefer a wife who deeply cherishes and appreciates what you do, admires you as a man, looks to you as the head of the household, and finds endless ways to attend to your needs, spoil you, and make a warm inviting home for you to return to?”

Do you want to hear their answer?

We have asked men from a wide economic range with varying educational levels. So some of the more enthusiastic responses need to be censored for improper language and imagery. In the privacy of our conversation and in the nonjudgmental atmosphere of anonymity, they all answered one and only one way.

The Price of A Happy Marriage and Phyllis Schlafly

Monday, November 29th, 2010

“With the high divorce rates of today, is a happy, lifetime marriage a realistically attainable goal?” This is the opening lines of a beautiful passage in Phyllis Schlafly’s 1977 book The Power of the Positive Woman (ISBN-13: 978-0870003738) entitled “The Price of A Happy Marriage.” Here is a book written by a sweetheart of the silent majority, arguing against the Equal Rights Amendment on the legal implications of the changes demanded by the radical feminists. Since Phyllis was and still is heavily involve in legal issues (she has a doctorate degree in law) much of the book cites historical bills, amendments, legal issues, and legal cases, there are passages on what it means to be a Positive Woman, whether one be a young, middle aged, and elderly positive woman.

The Price of A Happy Marriage is a 6 page subsection that reads like a portable, condensed version of all the great marriage books written between the late 50s and early 70s. Because this book is out of print and difficult to obtain, we are going to share a few of our favorite lines from the Happy Marriage with you. The following lines are some of sensible advice on promoting the traditional marriage as we here at the organization revere:

The Positive Woman knows that there are two main pillars of a happy marriage and that she has the capability to build both. The first is that a wife must appreciate and admire her husband. Whereas a woman’s chief emotional need is active (i.e., to love), a man’s prime emotional need is passive (i.e., to be appreciated or admired).

The Positive Woman recognizes this fundamental difference and builds her male/female relationship accordingly. She knows that this does not in any sense make her inferior, but that it is one key to personal fulfillment for both herself and her husband.

The answer is always very simple: She knows how to make him feel like a man—and to remember always that she is a woman.

A satisfying and rewarding relationship between a man and a woman can last through the years only if she is willing to give him the appreciation and the admiration his manhood craves. There are a thousand ways a woman can devise—public and private, obvious and subtle, physical and intellectual. It makes little difference how—so long as it is personal, pervasive, perennial, and genuine.

It is true (and properly so) that the husband is naturally possessive about his wife’s sexual favors, but he is seldom possessive of his wife’s mind, time, or talents….so long as he knows that he is Number One in her life, and that she needs him.

She acquired the key to her power when she erected that first pillar —admiration and appreciation of her husband as a man, as provider and protector, as the father of her children, and, yes, even as head of the household.

No other quality can do so much to ensure a happy marriage as a happy disposition.

One of the mistaken pieces of advice often given young people is “be yourself.” Maybe you are a hard-to-get-along-with person with an irritable disposition who spends the evening reciting and reliving the troubles of the day and blaming them on others. Don’t be yourself.- Be the person you would like to be—a cheerful person who sheds a little sunshine into an otherwise gloomy day, who sees the silver lining in every cloud, who keeps a sense of humor in the face of every reverse. A cheerful disposition will keep a happy marriage decades longer than a pretty face.

By the way, we stumbled upon a quotation from Comedy Central’s Ugly Americans which reminded us very much of the final Schlafly excerpt above: Here it is:

“They say people don’t change, that we are dominated by our genetic code. But you can’t hide from your faults forever. It’s probably best to just try to be the best versions of ourselves we can and not to dwell on the versions of ourselves we’d like to forget .” -Ugly Americans, Better Off Undead