Posts Tagged ‘FLDS’

Application To Be The Perfect Wife

Sunday, November 1st, 2015

Girls here at the Stepford Wives Organization are avid collectors of religious mores when it comes to wifely duties. The FLDS (Fundamental Latter Day Saints) have great anachronistic interest in their ideas of marriage because they are fundamentally living in times capsules from previous centuries. While we do look to antique books on how to conduct ourselves in marriage, FLDS principles and sermons are useful primers as well.

Even though this is a supposed questionnaire for application to be an FLDS wife and the mother, it highlights the qualities that are important on becoming that perfect wife which we all strive to be. It is from former FLDS member Jessica Rohbock. (

Amy Berg’s “Prophet’s Prey” and the FLDS

Monday, February 2nd, 2015

FLDS wives of warren jeffs

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Hello 2015! We’re back. (We were never gone, really. We’re still answering all your emails)

One of the questions we continue to get is about our religion. Do we belong to a particular denomination? Are we Mormons, Christians, Muslims, or atheists? The simple answer is that we are plainjane Christians. There are a few atheists in our organization. We let them be, of course.

The articles on Stepford Wives Organization reflect a broad range of religions because we research many different cultures and aspects of religion to edify the tenets of the traditional family unit. We believe the man is the head of the household, and the wife is his helpmeet.

There’s a huge pool of information to draw from. We are particularly acquainted with the teachings of the Mormons and The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, because as you know, our beloved guide book Fascinating Womanhood and the companion book Man of Steel and Velvet were written by the husband and wife team of Aubrey Andelin and Helen Andelin, both Mormons.

From that launching point, we went and researched historical sermons from the LDS library, including the devilishly difficult to obtain book “In Light and Truth: Raising Children in the Family Order of Heaven. The Word of the Lord Through is Servants, the Prophets.” A book only available to FLDS members. It is composed of sermons from decades of Mormon and Fundamentalist Mormon figures.

Now, we obviously do not condone the numerous illegal activities practiced by the now imprisoned leader of the FLDS, Warren Jeffs. But it should be remembered that the FLDS at one time, were mere polygamists. Though polygamy is a strange concept to us, it is worth noting that the FLDS, like the Amish, existed for decades as an insular religious group in America.

We draw on anachronistic groups like the Amish and Mennonites purely for their old fashion beliefs regarding men and women, husband and wife. At the Stepford Wives Organization ( we see everything right about the traditional roles a man and a woman upholds in marriage.

Filmmaker Amy Berg debuted her documentary Propehet’s Prey at the Sundance Film Festival recently. The film is based on the Sam Brower’s book _Prophet’s Prey_. You can see a clip of it below. It will eventually be shown on Showtime Cable TV Channel. There is talk of a limited release in cinemas across the country. It caught our eye because Berg comments that her film “shows how these tactics can destroy all freedoms and mold a person into a robot.”

Click Here to Read About Amy Berg’s movie Prophet’s Prey

“In Front Of Every Successful Woman Should Be A Man”

Monday, July 21st, 2014

As avid followers of the evolving ideas of traditional marriage, we at The Stepford Wives Organization are constantly scouring the internet and printed book matter for ideas and new information.

We have mentioned the polygamous FLDS (Fundamental Latter Day Saints) group, purely out of interest for their anachronistic ideas of traditional marriage and their views of the man as the head-of-the-household. After all, our favorite “bible” of marriage was written by a Mormon.

Now to be clear, none of us at the organization support polygamy, and we certainly do NOT condone underage marriage or child brides in ANY form. From a purely historical historical however, legal marriageable age in 13th century England was 12 yrs old, without the consent of parents! Up till the 18th century, girls at 13 yrs old married without the consent of their parents. Girls in the American colonies married as young as 9 yrs old. So whether you agree with it or not (we don’t), legal standards are a fluid concept that keeps fluctuating with the times.

Here is a wonderful idea from the FLDS group:

If somebody says, ‘You look pretty today,’ you’re to say, ‘Well, it’s because of my husband,’ or ‘It’s because I have such a wonderful father.’ ”

All glory, she says, must be passed on to the priesthood head, or the male with the highest level of religious authority in a woman’s family.


We at The Stepford Wives Organization are delighted to give all credit to our men, even in instances where we were responsible for the praise. We see this as an additional dimension in supporting our men and placing them in a positive light. Because at the Stepford Wives Organization, we have a favorite saying: “in front of every successful woman should be a man!.

Book Review: The Witness Wore Red, The 19th Wife Who Brought Polygamous Cult Leaders to Justice by Rebecca Musser

Wednesday, October 9th, 2013
The Witness Wore Red The 19th Wife Who Brought Polygamous Cult Leaders to Justice

The Witness Wore Red The 19th Wife Who Brought Polygamous Cult Leaders to Justice

We have often been unfairly compared to the FLDS because of our retro views on marriage and wifely duty, so a few of the girls at the organization started reading up on the Fundamental Latter Day Saints, just to make sure we weren’t going down their path (we’re not). As a result, over the years, we’ve become quite acquainted with the writings about, and by the FLDS.

In Light And Truth: Raising Children in the Family Order of Heaven,” a crucial book copyrighted by Rulon T. Jeffs, the 85 yr old codger prophet Musser was forced to marry at 19, was actually compiled from the meticulous notes of Sermons taken by Musser during her schooling days. (Don’t bother looking for the book, there is no ISBN).

So when it came time to provide damning evidence against the defense, Musser was really the FLDS’s worst nightmare. She was married to the prophet; she saw the inside machinations of his notorious son Warren Jeffs, and she has a great head for keeping track of details. She looks great (which can never be discounted in the easily swayed opinion of the public) and has an infectious positive attitude which carries the entire book. Most of all, however, her heart is in the right place.

Some of the most memorable lines include the closing of Chapter 17, when Musser goes to bat for “her people,” reminding readers that not ALL FLDS people are bad, that sexual abuse does not occur in ALL FLDS families. That is really what propels the personal journey of The Witness Wore Red. Musser never gives up an opportunity to talk about her love for her people, realizing they are put in a tough spot not of their choice.

Aside from the horror stories, in many ways, The Witness Wore Red is a spiritual journey that is the real path to reaching Musser’s internal “light and truth.” With each passing chapter, the author experiences new insights to her personal relationship with herself, God, and earthly “representatives” of a higher power. One would think that after her escape, it would be smooth sailing most of the way, but we find out that it was anything but simple.

The prose is easy to digest, there are adorable black and white pictures of Musser and her family, and it’s an easy page-turner.

It takes a great individual to make many astounding personal sacrifices to bring the proponents of the “one man rule” to justice. Musser is also founder of ClaimRed Organization, which helps and heals oppressed women. Check it out.

The Amish: A Wellspring of Inspiration

Friday, December 28th, 2012

Friends and readers have often asked us, “how is it possible that you girls at the Stepford organization remain focus and insulated in your anachronistic 1950s lifestyle?”

The answer is that we look to America’s antiquated religions communities, like the Amish, Mennonites, the Shakers, Quakers, the Mormons (minus the polygamy stuff the fundamental sects get involved in) and even the Unification Church.

PBS’s American Experience came out with a fantastic documentary this year.

We are not talking about Amish Mafia or any sensationalist reality tv show. There is poetry here in both imagery and life stories told (off camera) by Amish women.

For example:

“My mom was a very gentle soul.
She was always a servant to everybody else.
She always made sure everybody was taken care of,
except mom.
She always tried to be the submissive woman.”

Sweet, familiar music to our ears!

Jessop’s Escape and Fascinating Womanhood

Tuesday, November 30th, 2010

Fascinating Womanhood, nusses, FLDS, mormonsHarry Dean Stanton and wives in Big Love, a Hollywood fairy tale on the realities of polygamy

Carolyn Jessop’s book Escape (ISBN-13: 978-0767927574) which details her escape from polygamy and Fundamentalist Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints (FLDS), mentions what we women here consider our Stepford Bible: Helen B. Andelin’s Fascinating Womanhood. Although Jessop’s account is bizarre, to say the least, one should note that Helen B. Andelin herself was a regular non-polygamous Mormon. (not to be confused with the FLDS).

In Escape, Jessop mentions a clique in her high school known as “The Nusses.” These are girls who believed in living the gospel according to Fascinating Womanhood. Jessop makes short work of these “artificially” feminine, submissive, and stupid girls, much the same way as most people make fun of Stepford Wives.

Although we don’t support polygamy and none of us at the organization are Mormons; to us, the Nusses are heroines in preserving the tradition we practice every day. They walked on tiptoes, spoke in soft girly voices, laughed in a subdued way and practiced perfect penmanship. They were also A students and teachers’ pets. Since many of the teachers were men – including Warren Jeffs substituting in on some classes – this means they were perfectly obedient to male authority. That gets an round of delighted applause from us!

And in all fairness, we disagree with Jessop’s assessment that Fascinating Womanhood is about manipulating men and husbands. We feel it isn’t. It’s about making a marriage work by accentuating masculine and feminine qualities, and restoring scriptural values to a union.

Here are a few of our favorite lines from Escape:

A woman’s only avenue to God is through her husband. We were raised to believe we could not receive direct revelations from God on our own. Whatever God had to communicate or reveal to a woman can only be transmitted through her husband.

Every woman in a plural marriage knows that her only power in life will come from her relationship to her husband….Pleasing him was a skill I was determined to master, no matter what it cost me at a personal level…..Sublimating my needs to his felt natural to me at twenty two. I knew this was how generations of women had live in my family.

This philosophy of “perfect obedience” produces perfect faith began sweeping through the community. We were told that every problem a woman faces was because she wasn’t being perfectly obedient to her husband. A wife’s goal was to be able to meet his every need without ever being asked. If she asked questions when her husband gave her an order, it was only because she still had contamination in her heart.

You can purchase the book at Amazon by clicking on this line.

Dress Codes at Brigham Young University (update: September 7, 2010)

Tuesday, September 7th, 2010

We are always looking at guidelines from different religions to adopt when it comes to being a good dutiful wife. I was browsing articles online when I came upon this page from Brigham Young University, a educational institution created by the Mormons. Here is the actual link: Honor Code Statement.

Dress and Grooming Standards

The dress and grooming of both men and women should always be modest, neat, and clean, consistent with the dignity adherent to representing The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints and any of its institutions of higher education.

Modesty and cleanliness are important values that reflect personal dignity and integrity, through which students, staff, and faculty represent the principles and standards of the Church. Members of the BYU community commit themselves to observe the following standards, which reflect the direction of the Board of Trustees and the Church publication For the Strength of Youth. The Dress and Grooming Standards are as follows:

A clean and well-cared-for appearance should be maintained. Clothing is inappropriate when it is sleeveless, revealing, or form fitting. Shorts must be knee-length or longer. Hairstyles should be clean and neat, avoiding extreme styles or colors, and trimmed above the collar, leaving the ear uncovered. Sideburns should not extend below the earlobe or onto the cheek. If worn, moustaches should be neatly trimmed and may not extend beyond or below the corners of the mouth. Men are expected to be clean-shaven; beards are not acceptable. Earrings and other body piercing are not acceptable. Shoes should be worn in all public campus areas.
A clean and well-cared-for appearance should be maintained. Clothing is inappropriate when it is sleeveless, strapless, backless, or revealing; has slits above the knee; or is form fitting. Dresses, skirts, and shorts must be knee-length or longer. Hairstyles should be clean and neat, avoiding extremes in styles or colors. Excessive ear piercing (more than one per ear) and all other body piercing are not acceptable. Shoes should be worn in all public campus areas.

Stephanie Sinclair’s photo essay on the FLDS community for Nat Geo