Posts Tagged ‘nuclear family’

Little House on the Prairie and Father Knows Best

Thursday, November 14th, 2013

We squeal with delight when we watch old reruns of tv shows. That includes “Lil’ Hop” (Little House on the Prairie), Father Knows Best, Ozzie and Harriet and Leave It To Beaver. It’s a look back to gentler, simpler days when the man was the head of the household and us girls just stayed at home, set up house, and raise kids. We just watched a scene from Father Knows Best, where a protestant pastor played a central figure in providing a moral compass, imagine that! (Not the scene below, which has a misleading title, but take a look to get a feel for the show, if you have never seen it)

Stephanie Coontz first wrote a book called The Way We Really Are, then the following book The Way We Never Were, flip-flopping between the assertion that the 1950s conservative nuclear family was a reality and a later postmodern, revisionist reading of that arrangement as a manufactured existence. Whatever side you chose to be on, there existed an entire generation of women who were raised on 50’s sitcoms. We know elderly ladies who DO behave and talk like June Cleaver. They make sandwiches and glasses of milk for kids when they come through the door, affect a sunny disposition with clasped hands, and never seek to stomp other people out in a one-upMANship display of intellectual prowess during a dinner table discourse. They keep quiet, beam a radiant smile, and pass the butter.

Sadly, the overly feminist focus on the traditional family arrangement as an oppression of women a la Betty Friedan has removed the attention on the male figure. Yes, women were expected to attend to domestic duties and pleasing their husbands, but more importantly, men were expected to provide for the family, bring home the bacon, and rise to the responsibility of providing a compass to steer his family through tough times. If we wonder why father no longer knows best, and men today are take-no-charge, self-absorbed, metrosexual debutantes with cabinets full of hair products and well-maintained tattoos, it may have something to do with the “liberated” woman dropping the ball. We fought for many years to be able to bring home the bacon ourselves. And once men found they were dispensable and politically-corrected into obsolescence, they too, dropped the ball.

The dying tradition of the male head of the household and provided of the family is what we try to carry on at the Stepford Wives Organization. For new readers, the rest of our website is here StepfordWives.org and StepfordWife.com

The Marriage Vow, The Family Leader and Bob Vander Plaats

Wednesday, July 13th, 2011

Tim Pawlenty, Herman Cain, and Mitt Romney has said no to The Family Leader’s Marriage Vow contract.

But we at the Stepford Wives Organization say a resounding YES.  In these political correct times, it’s “hip” to go against the institution of the traditional model of marriage, but we have supported it all along.  Please read the Marriage Vow below, and if you agree with it, sign up and pledge using the link! Bring marriage back to what it was and what we know and respect it to be!

THE MARRIAGE VOW

– A Declaration of Dependence Upon Marriage and Family.

Faithful monogamy is at the very heart of a designed and purposeful order – as conveyed by Jewish and Christian Scripture, by Classical Philosophers, by Natural Law, and by the American Founders – upon which our concepts of Creator-endowed human rights, racial justice and gender equality all depend.

Enduring marital fidelity between one man and one woman protects innocent children, vulnerable women, the rights of fathers, the stability of families, and the liberties of all American citizens under our republican form of government.  Our exceptional and free society simply cannot endure without the transmission of personal virtue, from one generation to the next, by means of nurturing, nuclear families comprised of sexually-faithful husbands and wives, fathers and mothers. We acknowledge and regret the widespread hypocrisy of many who defend marriage yet turn a blind eye toward the epidemic of infidelity and the anemic condition of marriages in their own communities.  Unmistakably, the Institution of Marriage in America is in great crisis:

•  LBJ’s 1965 War on Poverty was triggered in part by the famous “Moynihan Report” finding that the black out-of-wedlock birthrate had hit 26%; today, the white rate exceeds that, the overall rate is 41%, and over 70% of African-American babies are born to single parents3 – a prime sociological indicator for poverty, pathology and prison regardless of race or ethnicity.

•  About one million U.S. children suffer through divorce each year – the outcome of about half of all first marriages and about 60 percent of remarriages, disproportionately affecting economically-vulnerable families.

•  The taxpayer-borne social costs of family fragmentation exceeds $112 billion per year, especially when all costs to the justice system are recognized.

•  Social protections, especially for women and children, have been evaporating as we have collectively “debased the currency” of marriage.  This debasement continues as a function of adultery; “quickie divorce;” physical and verbal spousal abuse; non-committal co-habitation; pervasive infidelity and “unwed cheating” among celebrities, sports figures and politicians; anti-scientific bias which holds, in complete absence of empirical proof, that non-heterosexual inclinations are genetically determined, irresistible and akin to innate traits like race, gender and eye color; as well as anti-scientific bias which holds, against all empirical evidence, that homosexual behavior in particular, and sexual promiscuity in general, optimizes individual or public health.

The Candidate Vow:

Therefore, in any elected or appointed capacity by which I may have the honor of serving our fellow citizens in these United States, Ithe undersigned do hereby solemnly vow* to honor and to cherish, to defend and to uphold, the Institution of Marriage as only between one man and one woman.  I vow* to do so through my:

•  Personal fidelity to my spouse.

•  Respect for the marital bonds of others.

•  Official fidelity to the U.S. Constitution, supporting the elevation of none but faithful constitutionalists as judges or justices.

•  Vigorous opposition to any redefinition of the Institution of Marriage – faithful monogamy between one man and one woman – through statutory-, bureaucratic-, or court-imposed recognition of intimate unions which are bigamous, polygamous, polyandrous, same-sex, etc.

•  Recognition of the overwhelming statistical evidence that married people enjoy better health, better sex, longer lives, greater financial stability, and that children raised by a mother and a father together experience better learning, less addiction, less legal trouble, and less extramarital pregnancy.

•  Support for prompt reform of uneconomic, anti-marriage aspects of welfare policy, tax policy, and marital/divorce law, andextended “second chance” or “cooling-off” periods for those seeking a “quickie divorce.”

•  Earnest, bona fide legal advocacy for the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) at the federal and state levels.

•  Steadfast embrace of a federal Marriage Amendment to the U.S. Constitution which protects the definition of marriage as between one man and one woman in all of the United States.

•  Humane protection of women and the innocent fruit of conjugal intimacy – our next generation of American children –from human trafficking, sexual slavery, seduction into promiscuity, and all forms of pornography and prostitution, infanticide, abortion and other types of coercion or stolen innocence.

•  Support for the enactment of safeguards for all married and unmarried U.S. Military and National Guard personnel, especially our combat troops, from inappropriate same-gender or opposite-gender sexual harassment, adultery or intrusively intimate commingling among attracteds (restrooms, showers, barracks, tents, etc.); plus prompt termination of military policymakers who would expose American wives and daughters to rape or sexual harassment, torture, enslavement or sexual leveraging by the enemy in forward combat roles.

•  Rejection of Sharia Islam and all other anti-woman, anti-human rights forms of totalitarian control.

•  Recognition that robust childbearing and reproduction is beneficial to U.S. demographic, economic, strategic and actuarial health and security.

•  Commitment to downsizing government and the enormous burden upon American families of the USA’s $14.3 trillion public debt, its $77 trillion in unfunded liabilities, its $1.5 trillion federal deficit, and its $3.5 trillion federal budget.

•  Fierce defense of the First Amendment‟s rights of Religious Liberty and Freedom of Speech, especially against the intolerance of any who would undermine law-abiding American citizens and institutions of faith and conscience for their adherence to, and defense of, faithful heterosexual monogamy.

The Vow of Civic, Religious, Lay, Business, and Social Leaders:

We the undersigned do hereby solemnly vow* that no U.S. Presidential primary candidate – nor any primary candidate for the U. S. House, Senate, Governor, state or municipal office – will, in his or her public capacity, benefit from any substantial form of aid, support, endorsement, contribution, independent expenditure, or affirmation from any of us without first affirming this Marriage Vow.  Furthermore, to uphold and advance the natural Institution of Marriage, we ourselves also hereby vow* our own fidelity to this Declaration and especially, to our spouses.

So help us God.

Please click on THIS LINK TO SUPPORT AND PLEDGE BY THE MARRIAGE VOW