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We’re Still Here (November 15, 2017)

Wednesday, November 15th, 2017

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We haven’t abandoned this blog / website / organization. The ladies in the organization were in the process of relocating to a different town north of Connecticut.

We have been reading your delightful emails and are still in the process of replying to each and every single one of them. Plese bear with us.

In the meantime, we leave you with our favorite quotes from the good book.

Check back soon and look for our replies to your email.

from John Gill’s Exposition of the Bible

Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands
This is an instance, explaining the above general rule; which subjection lies in honour and reverence, ( Ephesians 5:33 ) , and in obedience; they should think well of their husbands, speak becomingly to them, and respectfully of them; the wife should take care of the family, and family affairs, according to the husband’s will; should imitate him in what is good, and bear with that which is not so agreeable; she should not curiously inquire into his business, but leave the management of it to him; she should help and assist in caring and providing for the family; and should abide with him in prosperity and adversity, and do nothing without his will and consent: and this subjection is only to her husband; not to any other man, nor to her children, nor to her servants, or any brought into her house; and this consideration should render the subjection more easy, voluntary, and cheerful: and which is but reasonable that it should be; as may be gathered from the time, matter, and end of the woman’s creation, she was made after him, out of him, and for him; and from her fall, and being first in the transgression; and from her being the weaker and inferior sex; and from the profitableness and comeliness of it; and the credit of religion requires it, that so the word of God be not blasphemed: wherefore it follows,
-Ephesians 5.22

from 1 Peter 3:1 – 3:6 (Amplified Bible)

IN LIKE manner, you married women, be submissive to your own husbands [subordinate yourselves as being secondary to and dependent on them, and adapt yourselves to them], so that even if any do not obey the Word [of God], they may be won over not by discussion but by the [godly] lives of their wives,

When they observe the pure and modest way in which you conduct yourselves, together with your reverence [for your husband; you are to feel for him all that reverence includes: to respect, defer to, revere him–to honor, esteem, appreciate, prize, and, in the human sense, to adore him, that is, to admire, praise, be devoted to, deeply love, and enjoy your husband].

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The First Rule About Stepford Wives Organization Is To Start Early !

Wednesday, July 26th, 2017
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The Three Qualities of A Good Wife

Saturday, June 24th, 2017
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Chanakya Quote: A Good Wife

Asking For Permission The Stepford Way

Thursday, April 28th, 2016

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Here at the Stepford Organization, not only do us girls always ask our men for their advice, we always ask for their permission. We ask for his permission before making purchases, we ask for his permission if we’re going to spend an afternoon out, we ask his permission before we take a little bite of a delightfully guilty dessert (which is seldom, because ladies…remember the waistline!)

But there is two ways of asking for permission. Although we have a deep reverence and admiration for a man’s guidance in every part of our daily decision making, we feel a man doesn’t want to be constantly harassed with every minutiae of our lives, most of which are meaningless anyway. So instead of going to him and posing the same question in the same exact way “what do you think I should do?” We suggest the Stepford Way of asking for permission.

These are basically variations of the question “what should I do?”

  • “Honey, I’d Like To Hear Your Opinion On This”
  • “What would you do in this case?”
  • “What do you think would be the smart thing to do?”
  • “How would you approach this?”
  • “I’m thinking of going out, is there anything you need me to do before I leave?”
  • “I’m thinking of going out, when is a good time you’d like me to be back?”
  • “I’m thinking about making this purchase, do you think it’s financially wise?”
  • “My opinion is whatever your opinion of the matter is.”
  • “I’m happy when you’re happy.”
  • “I value your input.”
  • If you’re at a lost of how to phrase “what should I do?” to your husband – a phrase that should be first and foremost in every Stepford Wives’ mind, just remember our no. 1 rule of thumb” The word you or your should be in every phrase or question when you are communicating to your husband or man asking for his permission.

    Feminist Fantasies

    Monday, April 4th, 2016

    One of the greatest champions of the conservative right, Phyllis Schlafly wrote a book called _Feminists Fantasies_ in 2003. As she has been doing for decades, Mrs. Schlafly elaborates upon this “fantasy” of third-wave feminism, constantly creating the specter of male aggression, male entitlement, and patriarchal dominance. Feminism went from the advancing suffrage movement to gain voting rights for women at the turn of the 1900s, to the advancing ERA movement and the move out of homemaking in the 60s and 70s (courtesy of Betty Friedan and Gloria Steinhem) and finally, the passive-aggressive third wave, that sought to portray women as constant victims in every situation, laying blame on society, the specter of male aggression, entitlement, and patriarchy. The recent set of photos from Allaire Bartel is no exception.

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    Among the girls at our organization, we have members who have worked full time in corporate offices from secretarial to executive positions. And yes, some of us have majored in Women Studies / Gender Studies in established liberal arts universities. Men at the office today carry out orders without the chauvinism portrayed in the tv show “Mad Men.” The sort of aggression and over-stepping of boundaries portrayed in these photos is exactly what Phyllis Schlafly would call “Feminist Fantasies.”

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    Almost all of our members visit local gyms regularly – in addition to working out at home on machines. No men – NO MEN ANYWHERE – behave like this in gyms. Anyone who has been to gyms know this. If anything, men have a very narrowed, allowed field-of-view, as women obnoxiously prance around in shamefully skimpy outfits showing off tattoos daring men to sneak a peek. In contrast, men at gyms are overly polite and keep their eyes and certainly, hands to themselves.

    Other photos from this set include women being groped by anonymous hands while walking down a public street, being choked while cooking. These, are feminist fantasies. Walk down any public street in America if you are a woman, and chances are, men will walk to the side and give you the right of way.

    Mrs. Schlafly said it best when she said the American woman has it best in the world today. We have the most power and choice to choose our destiny.

    And we, at the Stepford Wives Organization choose to return home to cook, make the beds, clean the home, and serve and entertain our men where we belong!

    The Bernie Sanders Essay “Man and Woman” is the modern roadmap to Stepford

    Thursday, June 11th, 2015

    The Vermont presidential candidate Bernie Sanders recently had one of his vintage essays unearthed. As usual, the media knee-jerked to the most sensational lines of assault and pornography to _blind_ the general public against the subtle cry of the modern man. We girls here at the Stepford Wives Organization have always agreed that you have to gently sift through the chaff of male-speak to discover the sensitivity of the male identity.

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    Though the full 1972 essay “Man and Woman” is reproduced in it’s entirety below, we put our blinders on against the sensational bits and bring your attention to several noteworthy lines.

    The modern battle of the sexes is really one of language. We have several members who are fairly well-read in the feminist canon. You cannot read Sanders’s essay by taking it out of context. After all, this was 1972, a time between bra-burning and ERA, when Gloria Steinham and the National Organization for Women were coming into their own. Now if you take look at language carefully and reinspect this essay, it’s really the same traditional message we’ve always espoused.

    Women, for their own preservation, are trying to pull themselves together. And it’s necessary for all of humanity that they do so. Slavishness on one hand breeds pigness on the other hand. Pigness on one hand hand breeds slavishness on the other

    Substitute the patronizing “pigness” with masculinity, and “slavishness” with femininity and what do we have?

    “Women, for their own preservation, are trying to pull themselves together. And it’s necessary for all of humanity that they do so. Femininity on one hand breeds masculinity on the other hand. Masculinity on one hand hand breeds femininity on the other….”

    In the modern technological industrial era, the dependent role of man and wife have become just that, “roles.” Even homosexual couples adopt these roles to some degree, even if it fluctuates between two people constantly.

    “In the beginning there were strong men who killed the animals and brought home the food — and the dependent women who cooked it. No more! Only the roles remain –waiting to be shaken off.”

    At our organization, these roles are still valid and they are not negotiable. We Stepford girls cherish being dependent on our men.

    Their (women) qualities of love, openness and gentleness were too deeply enmeshed with qualities of dependency, subservience, and masochism. How do you love — with-out being dependent? How do you be gentle — without being subservient? How do you maintain a relationship without giving up your identity and getting strung out? How do you reach out and give your heart to your lover, but maintain the soul which is you?

    The Stepford roadmap is that we women maintain our relationships without giving up the identity of love, openness, and gentleness, EVEN if it is enmeshed in “dependency, subservience, and mascohism.” That is how we love.

    The closing lines of Sanders’s essay give us:

    And she said, “You wanted me not as a woman, or as a lover, or a friend, but as a submissive woman, or submissive friend , or submissive lover….”

    In the Stepford Organization, the two are one and the same. We help make our husbands whole by fulfilling our rightly place as submissive woman, submissive friend, and submissive lover.

    That is the path in finding our way towards rediscovering and restoring the traditional role of man and woman.

    Essay with transcript follows:

    Bernie Sanders 1972 Essay Man and Woman

    Bernie Sanders 1972 Essay Man and Woman

    A man goes home and masturbates his typical fantasy. A woman on her knees, a woman tied up, a woman abused.

    A woman enjoys intercourse with her man — as she fantasizes being raped by 3 men simultaneously.

    The man and woman get dressed up on Sunday — and go to Church, or maybe to their “revolutionary” political meeting.

    Have you ever looked at the Stag, Man, Hero, Tough magazines on the shelf of your local bookstore? Do you know why the newspapers with the articles like “Girl 12 raped by 14 men” sell so well? To what in us are they appealing?

    Women, for their own preservation, are trying to pull themselves together. And it’s necessary for all of humanity that they do so. Slavishness on one hand breeds pigness on the other hand. Pigness on one hand hand breeds slavishness on the other, Men and women — both are losers. Women adapt themselves to fill the needs of men, and men adapt themselves to fill the needs of women. In the beginning there were strong men who killed the animals and brought home the food — and the dependent women who cooked it. No more! Only the roles remain –waiting to be shaken off. There are no “human” oppressors. Oppressors have lost their humanity. On one hand “slavishness,” one the other hand “pigness.” Six of one, half dozen of the other, Who wins?
    Many women seem to be walking a tightrope now. Their qualities of love, openness and gentleness were too deeply enmeshed with qualities of dependency, subservience, and masochism. How do you love — with-out being dependent? How do you be gentle — without being subservient? How do you maintain a relationship without giving up your identity and getting strung out? How do you reach out and give your heart to your lover, but maintain the soul which is you?

    And Men. Men are in pain too. They are thinking, wondering. What is it they want from a woman? Are they at fault? Are they perpetrating this man-woman situation? Are they oppressors?
    The man is bitter.

    “You lied to me,” he said. (She did).

    “You said that you loved me, that you wanted me, that you needed me. Those are your words.” (They are).

    “But in reality,” he said, “If you ever love me, or wanted me, or needed me (all of which I’m not certain was ever true), you also hated me. You hated me — just as you have hated every man in your entire life, but you didn’t have the guts to tell me that. You hated me before you ever saw me, even though I was not your father, or your teacher, or your sex friend when you were 13 years old, or your husband. You hated me not because of who I am, or what I was to you, but because I am a man. You did not deal with me as a person — as me. You lived a lie with me, used me and played games with me — and that’s a piggy thing to do.”

    And she said, “You wanted me not as a woman, or as a lover, or a friend, but as a submissive woman, or submissive friend , or submissive lover; and right now where my head is I balk at even the slightest suspicion of that kind of demand.

    And he said, “You’re full of _______.”

    And they never again made love together (which they had each liked to do more than anything) or never ever saw each other one more time.

    Remember To Be The Proper Lady

    Tuesday, May 12th, 2015
    The Proper Lady At Stepford Wives Organization (painting: The Acheson Sisters by John Singer Sargent

    The Proper Lady At Stepford Wives Organization: The Acheson Sisters by John Singer Sargent

    You would think we would go to the TV Tropes Website to look up the term “Stepford,” but the true treasure on that site is the blueprint for the Stepford Wife: she is The Proper Lady:

    She sacrifices herself for the good of her family, religion, and country. She is intelligent enough to smoothly run a household, and wisely spends her husband’s money for the good of her family, never guilty of negligence or selfish frivolity. She possesses the wit, taste and esprit necessary to be a star of Society, and never crosses the border of good taste and civility. She is devoted and loyal, never treacherous or scheming. Her manners are never less than impeccable, and her good will and charity are a beacon to those lucky enough to live around her. She is perfectly groomed, likely beautiful or at least comely (while the female antagonist will be more beautiful and appealing). However, more important than her personal looks is her gentle smile. Because small size is endearing (and allows for protective embraces from her lucky husband or fiancé), she will probably be on the shorter side.

    So there you have it. If you don’t feel like reading the shelves of books we have to trudge through here at the organization, this is the Stepford cheat sheet, or the Cliff Notes, depending on the generation you come from.

    source: TV Tropes The Proper Lady

    Assemble Yourself To Your Husband’s Specifications and Needs at Stepford Wives Organization

    Saturday, September 6th, 2014

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    Assembled to you husband's specifications at stepfordwife.com

    Assembled to you husband's specifications at stepfordwife.com

    The Oppressed Majority by Eleonore Pourriat

    Friday, March 28th, 2014



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    French actress / filmmaker Eleonore Pourriat makes a misandric 9 minute satire about what the world looks like when gender roles are reversed. No discussion about traditional male / female roles can be addressed without discussing gender studies – a subject in universities once called Women Studies.

    Even though Pourriat calls this play of inversion humor and derision, the unfortunate truth is that the modern women and young girls and increasingly moving in the direction of traditional masculine behavior. Of course, the world isn’t going to come to an end if they reach their goals and begin acting and behaving increasingly like brusque, callous men (as if ALL men behaved that way!), but it would take away from the fascination of womanhood and femininity.

    So the Stepford Wives Organization sees this video not as much as a social critique, but more a celebration of male behavior. When women behave this way, it’s grotesque and a distortion of nature, that’s why it has always belonged to the realm of manhood. A little sexism – or in our case, a lot of sexism – is good for a Stepford woman’s soul and well-being. Sexism isn’t as bad as feminists make it out to be; it’s an essential, complimentary half to fascinating womanhood. So men should continue doing these things, and we should continue doing what we do best: being women! Because the alternative, would be a world filled with angry, hateful, foul-mouthed wo-men.

    Stepford Wives In The Kitchen Where We Belong ( Miles Aldridge for Agent Provocateur )

    Monday, February 3rd, 2014
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    Stepford Wives In the Kitchen www.stepfordwives.org. Photo by Miles Aldridge for Agent Provocateur

    Photographer Miles Aldridge has been called upon to create an ad campaign for lingerie brand Agent Provocateur.

    Our husbands approve of the photo series, and we agree. There is nothing wrong with dressing in a racy way, as long as you are doing it for your husband and in the privacy of your home. Furthermore, our husbands have always encouraged us to wear garter belts to harken back to better, more traditional days of the 1950s. Click here Stepford Wives Dress Code to read more about it.

    We have been told by our men to doll out and get down to our sexy delicates when spoiling and serving them on many occasions, even during meal times or just sitting watching television. It’s a harmless request, and shows our eagerness to be available to them at all times. Of course, we would definitely encourage the use of an apron if you are doing the dishes, and even if we get a spot or two on us, remember: what better way than to please a man visually when we are pleasing him by keeping his home clean?

    Stepford Wives in the Kitchen www.stepfordwives.org. Photo by Miles Aldridge for Agent Provocateur

    Here is another photo from Miles Aldridge’s portfolio. Notice that his women are portrayed low to the ground, a classic advertising position in portraying fascinating femininity.

    Stepford Wives in the Kitchen www.stepfordwives.org

    Miles’s work can be viewed at: Miles Aldridge’s website

    Agent Provocateur’s amazing lingerie can be viewed at: Agent Provocateur

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