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What Does A Stepford Wife Song Sound Like?

Wednesday, May 22nd, 2013

You may be wondering, is it Music for Washing and Ironing?

Perhaps you fancy some songs quoted in Mad Men, especially Astrud Gilberto’s Agua de Beber. What could be more perfect than falling in love with your washing machine?

But here is one we’ve always taken a shine to:

The Primitives’ I’ll Stick With You

Witness the great Stepford like lyrics: (Music and lyrics by Paul Court. He writes the words, she (Tracy Tracy) sings them. Just the way it should be!

Noise from the city drives me off my head
Wish you could fly away
Rain comin’ down from the sky
Colder than yesterday

I’ve seen places fall apart
Same thing with people too
Don’t wanna be here when it gets dark

Think I’ll stick with you
Think I’ll stick with you
Think I’ll stick with you


Noise from the city drives me off my head
Wish you could fly away
Give me your hand a guiding light
I’ll do anything you say

I’ve seen places fall apart
Same thing with people too
Don’t wanna be here when it gets dark

Think I’ll stick with you
Think I’ll stick with you
Think I’ll stick with you


Think I’ll stick with you

Breast Size Preference an indicator of Traditional Male Attention?

Monday, May 20th, 2013

You betcha. In a recent study, men who prefer larger breast sizes were found to harbor greater sexist attitudes. Now a distinction needs to be made between benevolent sexism and hostile sexism. Benevolent sexism places women on pedestals, while hostile sexisms reinforces negatives attitudes and stereotypes towards women. Whichever sexism it is, we say “bring it on.” Sexism reinforces the difference between the sexes, and is the core of what makes fascinating womanhood fascinating. Even though egalitarianism is a noble idea to strive for, true equality would mean a loss of identity for the Stepford wife.

The original novel for the Stepford Wives reiterated many scenes where breast size was a trait of the women in Stepford:

“Good night,” Joanna said, and watched Carol go-profile of too-big bosom-into her kitchen and close the door. She reappeared almost instantly at the over-the-sink window, adjust the water lever, taking hold of something and scrubbing it. Her red hair was neat and gleaming; her thin-nosed face looked thoughtful (and, damn it all, intelligent); her big purple breasts bobbed with her scrubbing.

The filmmaker Pedro Almodovar once said that the women in his movies are always big bosom, due to to the belief among Spaniards that big breasts symbolized a healthy harvest.

In the Stepford Wives Organization, we believe if our husbands prefer us to be bustier, having an augmentation done to please our men is a privilege that we’ll happily agree to in order to pledge our compliance to their wishes. It doesn’t matter if other women find our bust size a little unnatural. All that matters is that our husbands like them.

That’s what she was, Joanna felt suddenly. That’s what they all were, all the Stepford wives: actresses in commercials, pleased with detergents and floor wax, with cleansers, shampoos, and deodorants. Pretty actresses, big in the bosom but small in talent, playing suburburban housewives unconvincingly, too nicey-nice to be real

Revisionist Herstory: Everywhere Is Stepford (Chuck Palahniuk’s 2011 Intro to Ira Levin’s The Stepford Wives)

Saturday, March 16th, 2013

In the British reprint of Ira Levin’s 1972 satire The Stepford Wives, Chuck Palahniuk – whose book The Fight Club was the basis for the movie of the same name – wrote an introduction. For those of our faithful readers who haven’t read the book, you owe it to yourself to give it a go.

For those who have already completed their reading assignments, scoot on over to’s Kindle preview to take a look at what Mr. Palahniuk has to say. It’s only about 3 pages. It talks about what has taken place since the book’s inception: the climate of Women’s Liberation back in 1972 vs what is considered “a liberated woman” of today.

Click here to take you to the Look Inside page

We’re still here! Welcome back!

Saturday, November 26th, 2011

loving wife pleasing husband and family in the stepford life

First things first: A Happy Thanksgiving to all the families and readers out there! We all hope you are having a fantastic holiday, spending quality time with your loved ones. We girls see it as a time to spoil our husbands extra deluxe in front of his and our families.

This is just a note to inform all our gentle readers that we have not gone away. We have been mum for a while, but we have also been busy reading up on many interesting topics in between cleaning, cooking, sewing, and taking care of the men around the house (extra guys visiting for the holidays).

For the girls, we stumbled upon this curious website that’s an introductory course to the FLDS way of life. (Every time we mentioned the FLDS, we make sure our readers know we are in no way affiliated with that religious group. We do not condone most (if not ALL) of the behavior of their imprisoned leader. But we do love our authoress Helen B. Andelin (who wrote Fascinating Womanhood), and was herself an LDS Mormon. This page, entitled “Role of Women” from FLDS 101 mentions Andelin’s book to our great delight.

For men – who often write to thank us for setting up our website and blog online – we found an acronym we are not familiar with MGTOW. If you never heard of it, check out this website: Men For Justice

The Great Grand Matriach of the Stepford Wives: Helen o’ Loy

Wednesday, November 17th, 2010

Lester Del Rey

Sci-Fi author Lester del Rey

My sister Carolyn’s in the midst of writing a review and mini-analyses of all the Stepford movies/tv movies/remake. In her travels and research, she’s come across an interesting tidbit. Long long before Ira Levin’s original novella The Stepford Wives in 1972, science fiction writer Lester del Rey wrote a short story about a robotic wife entitled Helen O’ Loy. The story was published in 1938.

The story is about two scientist who builds a wife that cooks and cleans. It turns out she’s very good at what she does, but since it was in the early stages of development, she was smothering the man she was with. But as things progressed, Helen realizes how much she wants to be a wife and a human (in that order). The men try to pull the plug, but at the last moment, one decides he couldn’t do it, and ends up marrying her. The men age with time, but Helen doesn’t. After he husband dies, she requests the surviving friend to give her an artificial death by way of acid (yikes).

You can read the entire story here online at google books: Lester del Rey’s Helen O’ Loy

The Stepford Dress Code: There is None.

Wednesday, October 27th, 2010

stepford wives 1975 dress code

One of the questions we get asked most often is about the Stepford Wives dress code.

Guess what girls? There is none!

To seek entry into the Stepford mindframe by simply purchasing a few superficial outfits amounts to a crossdressing mentality (i.e. “If you dress the part, you become the part”), and being this close to Halloween, that’s a bit frightening. This tendency is seeing its renaissance in the Preppy look, as scores of people who have barely made it out of public high schools are clawing to gain acceptance into the trust-fund, ivy league life by a mere argyle sweater and shirts with oversized polo logos.

No. The Stepford mindframe is a spiritual attainment. You can dress any way your husband wants you to, and still serve him, or you can dress in floral prints- which by the way, was an intervention by director Bryan Forbes to hide his wife Nanette Newman’s less-than-spectacular body in 1975’s Stepford Wife – and still fail to be the little domestic goddess in pleasing your husband. For those of you who have read Ira Levin’s novel, the original Stepford Wives outfit is tight, sexy, and appeals to the male gaze. (Take a look at the woman (black and white outfit) standing behind Peter Masterson and Katharine Ross at the supermarket checkout counter in the 1975 movie: that is how the Stepford wives in Levin’s novel was suppose to dress like.

correct stepford wives dress code


Bree Hodge (Van de Kamp) of Desperate Housewives is often regarded as the Stepford Wife to the new generation of tv viewers. But even though we approve of her conservative and well-turned out style, it is by no means the authoritative last word. There are no specific rules, though our rule of thumb here at the organization is that if it looks as if no average woman would have the time to put the look together, it’s a keeper!
bree van de kamp hodge desperate housewives


For example, one of our girls, Liz has a husband who greatly enjoys air travel. Although Matthew does construction work and seldom goes on flights, he has a love of being attended to by pretty, cheery stewardesses since childhood. Before Liz met Matthew, she was on a meteoric rise to becoming a senior VP at a financial firm in downtown Manhattan. Now to please Matthew was a full time job, and Liz felt that treating her husband like a king was something that had to be performed with excellence. So, she asked Matthew’s permission to opt out with an early retirement and return to their home full time. Liz noticed that her business suits closely resembled the tailoring of stewardesses’ uniforms, especially those belonging to airlines outside of the U.S. She brought her most expensive executive skirt suits to her tailor to have the darts taken in so that the silhouette became more form fitting.

Matthew just loved the idea. He was so enchanted the first day he came home to find Liz at the door, dressed like a CEO, a power broker at a Fortune 100 company, giving him a big hug and a kiss, followed by the hanging of his jacket and kneeling down to untie his dusty work boots. Just the thought that here was a young woman – who could have been making landmark decisions on international holdings- giving up her phenomenal ascent in the business world just to make attending to his needs her #1 account, fortified his masculine pride. In Matthew’s eyes, the fact that his personal comfort and gratification was above the success of her career, the fact that his incidental happiness decimated her entire professional future, and pulled her away from the reaches of being a powerful, liberated modern woman made him feel like a man in full.

Liz’s resume now contains only one career goal, and that is the success in the business of attending to Matthew.

We girls at Stepford cooed at the thought that Matthew’s male entitlement controlled the fate of Liz’s destiny and ultimately put an end to her formidable stature in a man’s world. Where departmental officers and investment managers once did her bidding, Liz now rushes enthusiastically to Matthew’s side when he whistles for her or snaps his fingers – awaiting eagerly to carry out her biological boss’s orders. It’s a man’s right to put his wife back in the home, to empower her with the privilege to be at his beck and call. And we girls at Stepford sure do support that!
successful executive corporate woman liberated modern woman

Men Take Charge, Women Get Free Passes. (update: 26, 2010)

Thursday, August 26th, 2010

With the most recent court ruling on Nadja Benaissa- a German Pop singer who found out she was HIV+ at 16, kept it to herself, and continued sleeping around for 12 more years – it makes me think about all the passes women get in Western society. Though the verdict is guilty, she only needs to do some community service and she’s scot free to go. Imagine had the perpetrator been a man, the sentence would most likely be harsher.

Most men are aware of this injustice meted out against their kind. Some are just more chivalrous than others: being a good sport, they let it go and give women a pass. That’s why the less chivalrous ones call it what it is: A p***** pass.

This asymmetry also makes me think the reason why so many women are against the notion of Stepford Wives is because they have been spoiled by the constant free passes to do and behave as they please, with zero accountability. I heard a story once, where two women in Colorado made up stories of assault on a man. After an entire summer of a community living in fear, and a life destroyed, they rescinded their accusations and said it was all made up. Again, no jail time, no fines, no consequences. So when we say, “we like giving our men extra special attention because they really deserve it for being so generous in giving us way!” women who have gotten their way all their lives feel it’s unnatural.

If anything, we feel that it’s because men keep giving us passes, that we should spoil them that much more. I still remember a car ride I took with some career ladies one evening. We were on our way to a charity dinner and I casually mentioned, “we tend to forget that men have their fragile areas, that they also need as much care, consideration, and attention as we do.”

I was met with a resounding “uh-uh! No way! What the $*%&$# is that all about?!!!”

We can’t change the fact that men continue to take on responsibility, relieving us to what we do best. But what we can change is our ability to make our marriages shine and work on making a good union a great one!

Frequently Asked Questions about Stepford Wives Organization (update: July 19, 2010)

Monday, July 19th, 2010

We have added a permanent page to this diary / bulletin board involving Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ) to be found on the side bar. We will produce it here as today’s entry:

1. Can I join this group

The Organization is made up of a group of women who physically know each other in real life, and live within close proximity of each other. It is NOT a virtual community where online members can join. The Organization is an online bulletin board for us to share our ideas, recipes, etiquette, philosophy, and way of conduct with other Stay-at-Home Mothers and Wives.

2. What is the politics of the organization

We encourage a broad range of views among our organization. There are women who have Women’s Studies B.A. from prestigious schools on the East Coast, to home-schooled ladies, and some with GEDs. Education is not a sign of prestige as we think no amount of intellectual powers can compare to one’s ability to please her husband. We have feminists who were active in the 70s and 80s, to ultra-conservative religious Republicans. At different point in our lives, we realized that staying at home and attending to and pleasing the head of the household was our main calling in life.

3. Where are you located.

Western Connecticut.

4. I’m a member of the transgender / crossdresser / bDsm community. Can we join your organization?

We can’t control who reads our website, or who pretends or fantasizes to live our way. While we think you should be free to live your life as long as you’re not hurting anyone, the answer is No. We feel if you live by the tenets of traditional marital obedience, there’s no need to stray into deviance and fringe behavior. We like normalcy and promote traditional, conservative values. We have never associated with any alternative lifestyle groups or gender-confused people, and we have little desire to.

5. What books do you recommend us to read

1. The Holy Bible
2. Fascinating Womanhood by Helen B. Andelin
3. Fascinating Girl by Helen B. Andelin (which was incorporated into certain editions of FW)
4. Man of Steel and Velvet: A Guide to Masculine Development by Aubrey Andelin
5. Being the Strong Man a Woman Wants: Timeless Wisdom on Being a Man by Elliot Katz
6. Wife Dressing: The Fine Art of Being a Well-Dressed Wife by Anne Fogarty and Rosemary Feitelberg
7. Stepford Wives by Ira Levin
8. Complete Book of Etiquette by Amy Vanderbilt
9. A History of the Wife by Marilyn Yalom
10. Happy Housewives: I Was a Whining, Miserable, Desperate Housewife–But I Finally Snapped Out of It…You Can, Too! by Darla Shine

6. Who are the members of the Organization?

There is Irene (that’s me) who, along with Pree, does most of the admin work and answers emails. My sister Carolyn, and then there is Stephanie, Clarissa, Blair, Liz, Sici (because she doesn’t like to be called Muff), Jane, Maddy and Connie.

6. Are you against feminism?

We are not. Feminism fought to gain equality, opportunity, legal rights, and most importantly, freedom for women. Like any idea, it was bound to be misread and appropriated by people who had their personal agenda to advance. In it’s original suffragist and workplace ideals, they succeeded in what they set out to do. As with any idea that seek to obtain opportunity however, freedom means we are equally free to accept feminists ideas as we are to reject them. We thank and applaud the women who have fought for our rights to make our own decisions. Now please allow us to make our own decisions and live by the choices we have made.

If you force us to live by your personal, egalitarian vision of utopia, then wouldn’t you would have repeated the very offense you charged men (and the patriarchal oppression) of committing?

Stepford Wife Dress Code when people are around and when they aren’t (update: July 14, 2010)

Wednesday, July 14th, 2010

In Season 3, Episode 8’s TV’s Desperate Housewives, Gabrielle (Eva Longoria) returns to a life as a fashion model. After a 10 year hiatus, she is cast in the role of the homemaker and not the hot “IT” girl of the moment. Frustrated, she storms off and throws together her version of the “hot” mom. We girls at the organization happen to think the initial outfit they put her in (below left) is precious, and we feel that is the perfect outfit in which to serve and attend to our husbands in (Girls: Notice that DARLING RIBBON on that blouse!). In contrast, we raised our eyebrows at the “hot” mom version (below right). Frankly, it’s not appropriate, especially if guests or neighbors were to pop in.

Here is a comparison

Eva Longoria in Desperate Housewives model the Stepford Wife homemaker look vs the hot wife look.
Eva Longoria in 2 versions of the Good Wife outfit

On the other hand, if our husbands tell us they want us to wear something a little racier, as dutiful wives who’s main duty is to please our men and their expectations, we won’t hesitate to go the route below:

Eva Longoria in the Stepford Wife homemaker look when our husband demands it.
Eva Longoria in the husband-approved version of the Good Wife outfit