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The Bernie Sanders Essay “Man and Woman” is the modern roadmap to Stepford

Thursday, June 11th, 2015

The Vermont presidential candidate Bernie Sanders recently had one of his vintage essays unearthed. As usual, the media knee-jerked to the most sensational lines of assault and pornography to _blind_ the general public against the subtle cry of the modern man. We girls here at the Stepford Wives Organization have always agreed that you have to gently sift through the chaff of male-speak to discover the sensitivity of the male identity.

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Though the full 1972 essay “Man and Woman” is reproduced in it’s entirety below, we put our blinders on against the sensational bits and bring your attention to several noteworthy lines.

The modern battle of the sexes is really one of language. We have several members who are fairly well-read in the feminist canon. You cannot read Sanders’s essay by taking it out of context. After all, this was 1972, a time between bra-burning and ERA, when Gloria Steinham and the National Organization for Women were coming into their own. Now if you take look at language carefully and reinspect this essay, it’s really the same traditional message we’ve always espoused.

Women, for their own preservation, are trying to pull themselves together. And it’s necessary for all of humanity that they do so. Slavishness on one hand breeds pigness on the other hand. Pigness on one hand hand breeds slavishness on the other

Substitute the patronizing “pigness” with masculinity, and “slavishness” with femininity and what do we have?

“Women, for their own preservation, are trying to pull themselves together. And it’s necessary for all of humanity that they do so. Femininity on one hand breeds masculinity on the other hand. Masculinity on one hand hand breeds femininity on the other….”

In the modern technological industrial era, the dependent role of man and wife have become just that, “roles.” Even homosexual couples adopt these roles to some degree, even if it fluctuates between two people constantly.

“In the beginning there were strong men who killed the animals and brought home the food — and the dependent women who cooked it. No more! Only the roles remain –waiting to be shaken off.”

At our organization, these roles are still valid and they are not negotiable. We Stepford girls cherish being dependent on our men.

Their (women) qualities of love, openness and gentleness were too deeply enmeshed with qualities of dependency, subservience, and masochism. How do you love — with-out being dependent? How do you be gentle — without being subservient? How do you maintain a relationship without giving up your identity and getting strung out? How do you reach out and give your heart to your lover, but maintain the soul which is you?

The Stepford roadmap is that we women maintain our relationships without giving up the identity of love, openness, and gentleness, EVEN if it is enmeshed in “dependency, subservience, and mascohism.” That is how we love.

The closing lines of Sanders’s essay give us:

And she said, “You wanted me not as a woman, or as a lover, or a friend, but as a submissive woman, or submissive friend , or submissive lover….”

In the Stepford Organization, the two are one and the same. We help make our husbands whole by fulfilling our rightly place as submissive woman, submissive friend, and submissive lover.

That is the path in finding our way towards rediscovering and restoring the traditional role of man and woman.

Essay with transcript follows:

Bernie Sanders 1972 Essay Man and Woman

Bernie Sanders 1972 Essay Man and Woman

A man goes home and masturbates his typical fantasy. A woman on her knees, a woman tied up, a woman abused.

A woman enjoys intercourse with her man — as she fantasizes being raped by 3 men simultaneously.

The man and woman get dressed up on Sunday — and go to Church, or maybe to their “revolutionary” political meeting.

Have you ever looked at the Stag, Man, Hero, Tough magazines on the shelf of your local bookstore? Do you know why the newspapers with the articles like “Girl 12 raped by 14 men” sell so well? To what in us are they appealing?

Women, for their own preservation, are trying to pull themselves together. And it’s necessary for all of humanity that they do so. Slavishness on one hand breeds pigness on the other hand. Pigness on one hand hand breeds slavishness on the other, Men and women — both are losers. Women adapt themselves to fill the needs of men, and men adapt themselves to fill the needs of women. In the beginning there were strong men who killed the animals and brought home the food — and the dependent women who cooked it. No more! Only the roles remain –waiting to be shaken off. There are no “human” oppressors. Oppressors have lost their humanity. On one hand “slavishness,” one the other hand “pigness.” Six of one, half dozen of the other, Who wins?
Many women seem to be walking a tightrope now. Their qualities of love, openness and gentleness were too deeply enmeshed with qualities of dependency, subservience, and masochism. How do you love — with-out being dependent? How do you be gentle — without being subservient? How do you maintain a relationship without giving up your identity and getting strung out? How do you reach out and give your heart to your lover, but maintain the soul which is you?

And Men. Men are in pain too. They are thinking, wondering. What is it they want from a woman? Are they at fault? Are they perpetrating this man-woman situation? Are they oppressors?
The man is bitter.

“You lied to me,” he said. (She did).

“You said that you loved me, that you wanted me, that you needed me. Those are your words.” (They are).

“But in reality,” he said, “If you ever love me, or wanted me, or needed me (all of which I’m not certain was ever true), you also hated me. You hated me — just as you have hated every man in your entire life, but you didn’t have the guts to tell me that. You hated me before you ever saw me, even though I was not your father, or your teacher, or your sex friend when you were 13 years old, or your husband. You hated me not because of who I am, or what I was to you, but because I am a man. You did not deal with me as a person — as me. You lived a lie with me, used me and played games with me — and that’s a piggy thing to do.”

And she said, “You wanted me not as a woman, or as a lover, or a friend, but as a submissive woman, or submissive friend , or submissive lover; and right now where my head is I balk at even the slightest suspicion of that kind of demand.

And he said, “You’re full of _______.”

And they never again made love together (which they had each liked to do more than anything) or never ever saw each other one more time.

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Stepford Resolutions for a Happy New Year! The Stepford 10 Commandments

Tuesday, January 1st, 2013


Many readers of Stepford Wives Organization have asked us what they should read or websites they should visit. There is no quick solution, but if we had to summarise into simple steps we would provide the following. You can consider these the REAL Stepford Ten Commandments at the Stepford Wives Organization Website.

It is said that you have to do something 21 days in a row to turn an act into a habit, but studies have shown it is more likely three times that amount. So you may have to put your nose to the grindstone for 3 months before it becomes automatic.

1. Memorise and repeat bible phrase Peter 1 3:1 putting yourself in the first person. So,

I, a married woman, am to be submissive to my husband [subordinate myself as being secondary to and dependent on him, and adapt myself to him], so that even if he does not obey the Word [of God], he may be won over not by discussion but by the [godly] lives of a wife,

When he observes the pure and modest way in which I conduct myself, together with my reverence [for my husband; I am to feel for him all that reverence includes: to respect, defer to, revere him--to honor, esteem, appreciate, prize, and, in the human sense, to adore him, that is, to admire, praise, be devoted to, deeply love, and enjoy my husband].

2. Always wake up before husband, dress in your best clothes, groom yourself and put make up on. A Stepford wife lets her husband wake up to the best image of her.

3. Always put on sexy underwear, even if you dress conservatively. A husband should be entreated to decorative underclothing whenever and wherever he decides to help himself.

4. Always speak in a little girl voice to your husband. Don’t talk to any male strangers when go out or are in the absence of your husband.

5. At least once a day, ask your husband what you should do and whatever he says, admiringly say “you’re right” or “that’s wise.”

6. Homecook 3-5 meals a day. It may be more depending upon your husband’s appetite.

7. Touch your husband at least once a day. This may be as simple as touching his arm, stroking his back, kissing him or giving him a hug. Sex for bonus points!

8. Eat little or next to nothing. Small portions of vegetables. Stay thin at all cost.

9. Always do what he tells you to with a big smile, without protest.

10. Always appear slower, or clueless around your husband. Dumbing yourself down shows you are dependent on his intelligence and fortifies his male pride.

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Intelligence and the Stepford Wives

Friday, August 31st, 2012

Intelligence is overrated these days. The media hails intelligent women as the liberated modern woman, but what they really are, are castrated men.

So it is with strong-willed opinionated women. Nothing says “not feminine” like a hard-nosed gal bulldozing down a man’s ideas, barking dismissive remarks, finished off with a cynical, derisive sneer. Basically, a complete reiteration of the exact male chauvinism feminists themselves decried in the 70s.

At the Stepford Wives Organization, we prefer a gentler, more feminine approach. We give way to our men, accepting their role as the leader of our marriage and family. Therefore, they should be the ones making the decisions. Besides male intelligence is high and above ours. It’s a Stepford fact.

Stepford women here at the organization are defined by our sunny disposition to follow our men’s orders. Even though Liz has a master’s in business administration and Matthew’s in the constructing business, he often calls her “clueless.” We’ve heard Edwin call Miss Thomas an “airhead” in front of everyone and she just laughs it off. Charles never misses an opportunity to inform me “not to worry my pretty little head” over important stuff.

The definition of woman is her ability to follow male instruction. Once she gives that up, she gives up her the mystery of her beautiful, compliant feminine nature.

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Stepford Wives Hair Length

Monday, October 10th, 2011

We girls at the organization are not devout or deeply religious, but we are involved in our local Protestant church whenever there are functions, events, bake-offs, or charitable work for the less fortunate. We do get inspiration from the good book and the events that are described in the Bible. (In fact, some of our favorite passages come from 1 Peter and Ephesians 5:22 – 5:24) You can look at some of our favorite quotes here at our official website.

Our greatest model for femininity begins with Eve. We believe that the symbolical meaning of woman being created from man’s rib is the foundation of the Stepford edict: Eve was created solely to be a helper to Adam, to keep him company so he would not be alone.

That Eve was seduced by the serpent to take that first bite, thus banishing both man and woman from the garden of Eden meant the weight of sin is on the woman’s shoulders. We were taught by the Stepford Men’s Organization that a deep sense of shame and contrition should be our identity as faithful wives to our husbands. Marriage is our second chance to do right by our men. Where Eve faltered, we will succeed.

One of our trademarks as girls of the Stepford Wives Organization is that we all have long hair. We also drew inspiration from the story of Simon of Pharisees inviting Jesus to dinner.

A woman in that town who lived a sinful life learned that Jesus was eating at the Pharisee’s house, so she came there with an alabaster jar of perfume. 38 As she stood behind him at his feet weeping, she began to wet his feet with her tears. Then she wiped them with her hair, kissed them and poured perfume on them. Luke 7:36-7:38 NIV

It’s not often that our husbands request us to wash their feet with our hair, but the symbolic gesture of having a lengthy mane to fulfill our lord’s wishes has always been greatly appreciated. After all, we took the first bite from that apple. As women, we have figuratively lived sinful lives. Cherishing the Stepford way of pleasing our men, being a helpmeet and attentive wives to them is our way of seeking redemption.

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Book Review: Feminine By Design by Scott T. Brown

Saturday, February 5th, 2011

We sometimes get asked whether our website is a joke. It isn’t. That reply is usually met with an declaration. “Well nobody in their right mind would have the same values as you gals!” Finally, we have come across a book that expounds on many of the “good things” we teach.

Please remember we never tell our men how to behave. We are merely share information with other wives, and try to mentor other less experienced women in our Stepford ways. Scott T. Brown, an elder at Hope Baptist Church in North Carolina has penned a short 85 page booklet that expands on the 12 pillars (“teachings”) of Biblical vision of Womanhood.

What are the 12 pillars? They include a call to celebrate the beauty and joys of woman as the image bearer of gentle and quiet spirits, kind meek hearts that follow the lead of the husband as ordained by the scripture. Women nurture their inner radiance and beauty as a quality that will age well with time. Whether our daughters are naturally gifted or they have acquired a natural passion towards being corporate executives, lawyers, politicians or professionals, they should be taught to renounce all these callings, and instead, answer only to their biblical fulfillment: stay at home, be a submissive and trustful helpmeet to her husband, and multiply greatly. Be a fruitful bearer of the godly seed. What we love about this book is that it speaks in the plain language that we can understand: “make lots of babies” to fill up the churches.

Pillar 2, warns against blurring androgyny lines. Something we closely adhere to when we steer clear of the “women” online who approach us about our organization.

Other pillars include the importance of being a domestic entrepreneur, a teacher of the next generation, a keeper of the home, and a member of the church. The book closes with a short word to fathers on the misleading term “liberation,” and a closing epilogue from the author’s wife.

The writing is short and clear. Unlike Christian books that quote the bible within the page, this book gives you the chapter-verse numbers that you can look up in your own bible. Besides, all us Stepford ladies have already committed these lines to memory. We know them by our hearts! While it is written primarily for daughters and young teen girls, we like the fact that the book is easy to read and comprehend. (I always leave the difficult reading to my sister Carolyn.) Besides, who has the time to read a tome?

We’re just glad we have some back up and support from Mr. Brown’s excellent book. Click on the following link to bring you to The National Center for Family-Integrated Church’s bookstore.

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Frequently Asked Question #9 You Expect Me To Do WHAT? Are You Out of Your Effin Mind? Is This Site A Joke?

Wednesday, December 1st, 2010

For the most part, we practice what we preach. We take the role of the traditional wife very seriously. We can’t say we succeed 100% of the time. Sometimes the will slips a little or tempers may get tested. It’s only human. Remember that we come from a broad range of backgrounds and this site is simply a place for us to share our notes on our notion of the perfect housewife with you. Think in terms of Haute Couture (high fashion in French). You know, all those models you see parading next season’s in look on the runway.

Most of us understand that only a handful of wives married to Arabic oil sheikhs are going to be able to shelf out 6 thousands dollars for a dress (all the time while denouncing the West as “shaitan” of course). For the rest of us, we wait until that design trickles down to Prèt-à-porté (Ready To Wear in French) at the department store where we can easily purchase and alter according to our body types. So it is with our Stepford Wives Organization website: we share our outlines with you, the sewing pattern to assemble the perfect housewife. You may not be able to make the perfect cut, but you’ll have the destination points marked out.

Feminism and the Woman’s Rights Movement have inadvertently made our jobs much easier. (Thanks sisters!) The liberated woman today has become so coarse, brusque, insulting, and unyielding to her guys, we’ve noticed that even the slightest trace of feminine acquiescence to our men, the slightest hint of “giving way” and yielding to men, whether it be decision-making, an absence of sarcasm, a cheery concession to whip up a nice little warm meal, any tiny way to say “thank you. I appreciate you.” – evokes a surprising level of gratitude in our stronger half. Feminism and today’s women may have trained men to expect so little from us, but it’s also soften many men into hollow semblances of what we once knew them to be. For those women who complain that men aren’t what they used to be, they only have to look in the mirror to discover the cause. We find that if we hold up our part in the traditional role – in whatever amount we can manage – it slowly awakens in our men to ascend back to the role they once took charge of so well.

The rest of our FAQ can be found here: Frequently Asked Questions of The Stepford Wives Organization

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Book Review: The Submissive Wife and Other Legends (Martha Drake) ISBN 0-87123-926-4

Sunday, November 21st, 2010

Marsha’s Drake’s The Submissive Wife is a short novel that expounds on the biblical teachings of Titus and Ephesians, primarily those involving a wife’s biblical submission to her husband. The novel is written in an easy to read format, documenting the days of one Martha Christian, a housewife / mother (of three boys), whose liberation from the home is awakened one day when she is called to duty as a smock lady at the local hospital.

After suffering an accident that puts her in a cast, things begin to go downhill, as Martha repeatedly defies her husband’s wishes for her to stay at home. To cure herself from this need for “self-expression,” she tries a number of remedies, anywhere from shopping herself out of a rut, to taking different jobs. Don’t let the title of the book fool you. It may be 170 pages, but it is 169 pages of a woman being everything but a submissive wife. One wonders many times along the way whether it is possible to be so at odds with the joys of homemaking. Martha continually quotes the scripture- even at one point to a teenage girl who has an aggressive career-oriented mother who is separating from the husband – but she herself then neglects following her biblical advice and goes back to rebelling. In that sense, it seems a little contrived.

Honestly, we girls at the Stepford Organization would have caved in at Chapter 1 and “quietly receive instruction with entire submissiveness” and obedience to our husbands’ wishes.

Needless to say, the moment finally arrives, but with a unique twist. It’s got a bit of everything: humor, emergencies, cuteness, a smattering of intellectual quotes, cheating, flirting bosses, break-ins, shoplifting, juvenile delinquency, all in a familial setting. So if you tend to wince at some of these situations, you may want to proceed with care. Pay attention to her boss outside if the domestic sphere – Drundle – who seems to be a dominating male figure which comes into competition with her husband’s.

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Do We Stepford Wives Fake It? (The Stepford Male Climax Right)

Monday, November 8th, 2010

First off, you should know that the Stepford Organization is in no way a power, role-play group (we don’t even really know what that really means!) We do not believe in role-playing: we believe in living and promoting a conservative, traditional marriage where the man is the head of the household. I have been told the "bdsm" culture consists of many rules, which is not something we do around here. We can’t stress it enough: we are just a group of wives discussing ideas and advice to make our traditional marriages a success. We look at religious guides and old fashioned advice books for inspiration. Once in a while we come up with a clever idea of our own. Here is our favorite:

My sister Carolyn once had a debate with someone over the way we conducted ourselves around our husbands. That person mentioned Carole Pateman’s "Sexual Contract," a feminist analysis of the patriarchal implications of Rousseau’s Social Contract. Pateman talks about the "male sex right" over women, meaning that in the patriarchal configuration, men had broad access to women because of the implicit dominance in the nature of the contract. Well, Carolyn went to school and majored in Women’s Studies Douglass College, so she was able to hold her own. When she told us this story, we put our heads together and tried to come up with a deluxe version of the "male sex right." We thought, if we could serve and please our husbands by giving them unrestricted access to our bodies (which we already do), how do we "supersize" the male sex right? Voila! Blair and Connie almost said it together. "Let’s give them unlimited access to our physical gratification!" And so our very own Stepford Male Climax Right.

Stepford Male Climax Right – The husband has full control over his wife’s access to sexual climax during, before, or after sexual activities together or alone. The wife must ask her husband when she is ready to climax. The husband has the right to refuse, at which point, his wife will acquiesce, and continue the task of bringing him to his peak. This agreement puts the authority of doling out physical gratification solely in the husband’s hands, permitting him to regulate her access to sexual pleasure. An additional benefit is that the wife will eventually develop a subconscious association between sexual pleasure and her husband’s voice, responding – not unlike pets – only to their master’s voice.

Now we have done this for years and our husbands seem to enjoy the high level of decision maker. We secretly think they just want all our attention focused on pleasing them when in bed. We also feel that expecting them to please us would be considered “work.” And Stepford men simply do not work when they are being pleasured.  To be fair, they say yes most of the time, even if it’s in the form of "afterwards."  That simply means after we bring them to climax, and clean them up (we find a warm clean towel, a big kiss and a hearty "thank you" is a favorite among the guys), and tuck them into bed, we’d retire to the bathroom and quickly (and quietly, so as not to disturb them) finish our part of the "contract."

If they want us to peak during the act, then whether we are able to or not, we’ll still manage a spectacular climax just to reinforce their manhood and masculine pride (shhhh! ladies). Then if we need to, after cleaning him, we’ll again head for the bathroom and make short work of it.

Of course, there have been times when a need arises when we’re alone.  According to the agreement, we would still call and ask them if it’s ok that "their little girl gets to have candy."  The more mischievous ones will deny the request for a few days, which often leads to intrepid bouts of begging from the wife until they relent.

I know some of the more worldly readers of our website have claimed this is a variation of female circumcision to limit female physical gratification.  That’s not true.  The Stepford Organization does not support or believe in any physical or genital mutilation.  We have our ears pierced (once only!) and tattoos of any sort are frowned upon.  The Stepford Male Climax Right is a harmless way for us to entertain our men and remind them that they’ll always be in the pilot’s seat.

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